If you are sometimes crying during a movie, then that is good news, you’re wise and strong, and if there were a lot more people like you, then many tragedies would have been prevented.
It is time to know the truth, crying is not representing weakness, that’s only a myth. It is also time to get rid of the stereotype, that emotionality is the same with fragility. This is the time of a new era, where women own huge companies, fathers are involved in child raising, and the children we raise no matter their gender, they know that they can be compassionate, bold and brilliant.
Why Do People Cry During Movies?
Have you ever teared up at the most non-discriminate scene during a movie? And if you have, do you feel that as a sign of weakness? Do you feel a little embarrassed, when you start sniffling?
We start crying during a movie when a painful time in history is brought back to life through the screen, when an on-screen animal is suffering, or when a character dies, that’s all because we’re feeling empathy. Empathy is one of the most important and powerful human emotions, that should be flaunted and celebrated, not hidden away under the tissues and blankets.
The Gift of Empathy
Empathy at its core, is the ability to relate to somebody else’s feelings. Actually, it is expressing empathy.
If a soldier wins a very tough battle, he is celebrated for the strength he had. But what if that battle or the entire war could have been prevented, altogether many lives would have been saved? Would the cause of that deterrence be also a sign of enormous strength?
For a brief moment, remember the worst human-made times in the entire history: the Mongolian conquest, the Holocaust, Rwandan genocide of 1994, slave trades, Inquisition and ‘witch trials’. And for one more moment just think of the modern society calamities, such as mass shootings, child abuse and the Syrian Civil War.
Now, just imagine there was an magic potion that could stop that violence, that most awful of humanity.
Indeed, there is a magic potion, just it’s not magic at all since it’s as of now inside you and me, it’s called empathy.
On the off chance that people felt more compassion and empathy, they would feel less separate, less unrivaled, and less rough. On the off chance that people felt more compassion and empathy, they would feel increasingly associated, progressively equivalent, and additionally minding. On a progressively close to home level, when we feel more empathy, we have better connections and experience more noteworthy inward harmony.
How to Become More Empathetic
In the event that you do cry during movies, you’re most likely incredibly empathic, to such an extent that your intuitive even has empathy for suffering that is just imaginary.
If you don’t cry during a movie, or you are feeling empathy towards others, try these very simple tricks:
- Put yourself from another person’s point of view. On the off chance that your companion’s feline kicked the bucket, envision how you would feel in the event that somebody you adored died. In the event that your neighbor totaled his vehicle, envision how you would feel on the off chance that you were in a mishap and lost your vehicle. On the off chance that somebody you know is battling with compulsion, consider how hard it is live without sugar, espresso, or whatever it is you hunger for consistently.
- Supplant judgment with comprehension. On the off chance that you are enticed to pass judgment on the individual who wears rotten fragrance, speeds past you on the roadway, is ceaselessly late, or has a propensity you don’t concur with, instead of bounce to judgment, spend a minute thinking about why they may settle on that decision. You don’t need to like their choices, however thinking about why individuals do what they do can reinforce our sympathy muscle.
- Quit talking so a much, and just quietly tune in. Next time you have a discussion, sit idle yet tune in. Fight the temptation to quickly pursue their story with your own. Do whatever it takes not to interfere with them. Try remaining calm longer than you’re utilized to. Listening encourages us make space to feel what others are feeling.
Empathy is a Sign of Strength
Empathy requires very much, it requires the ability to see through somebody else’s eyes. To demonstrate empathy, you need courage. That is a gift, a skill to be enjoyed and honored, mastered and honed.
If societies valued compassion and everybody felt empathy, many of the human-made tragedies would have been avoided, millions of lives saved, and life would be a lot better and more peaceful for everybody!